Nobody's Thinking About You

 

Long Ago when I was in insecure twenties, i met a clever, independent, creative, and  powerful women in her mid seventies, who offered me a superb piece of life wisdom.

She said "We all spend our spend our twenties and thirties trying so hard to be perfect, 

because we are so worried about what people  will think of us.

Then we get into our Forties and Fifties , and we finally start to be free, because we 

decide that we don't give a damn what anyone think of us. But you won't be completely free 

until you your sixties and seventies , when you finally realize this liberating truth..............

 "Nobody was ever thinking about you, anyhow."

 They aren't, They weren't, They never were.....

People are mostly just thinking about themselves.People don't have time to worry about 

what you're doing , or how well you're doing it, because they are all caught up in their 

own dreams. People's attention may be drawn to you for a moment (if you succeed or fail spectacularly publicly, for instance)

But that attention will soon enough revert right back to where it's always been__on themselves.While it may seem lonely and horrible at first to imagine that you aren't Anyone else's first order of business , there is also a great release to be found in this idea. 

You are free, because averyone is too busy fussing over themselves to worry all that much 

about you.

Go be whomever you want to be, then.

Do whatever you want to do.

Pursue whatever fascinates you and bring you to life.

Create whatever you want to create__ and let it be stupendously imperfact, because it's 

exceedingly likely that nobody will even notice.

And that's awesome.